I wouldn’t go so far as to say we’re going to call it “Guest Post Monday” in these here parts. But I just can’t pass up the opportunity to share amazing stories from my blogging buddies with y’all. This week, we’re hearing from Chris at A Deliberate Life. If you don’t already read her blog, what the hell are you doing with your time?! you should go check it out. Without further ado…
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Hello,
My name is Chris.
You may or may not know me. I have a blog called A deliberate life.
I chose that name because that is how I want to live.
It was a decision I made when I was 22 and living in Germany.
When I was a child, I saw all sorts of people making decisions.
I saw people all around me making decisions based on many things…
How they felt, the two good choices they may have left, How someone else was treating them, what kind of job they had, what their boyfriends wanted, what other people would think..
But mostly, they ran around making decisions based on how they felt about themselves.
From the outcome of those decisions.
I would hazard a guess, that how they felt about themselves
And what they thought they deserved.
Well, it wasn’t so Good.
But rarely did I see them making decisions by sitting and thinking.
What do I Want?
What are my gifts or talents?
What plan does God have for me?
How can I live my life so that is not only beneficial to me, but to others?
What is my purpose?
How can this help?
You may be wondering, What on EARTH does this have to do with WEIGHT LOSS!
Well I will tell you.
People 100 pounds or more overweight aren’t just eating food cause it tastes good.
(Although that is part of it.)
They are also eating to fill a hole.
Everyone’s hole is shaped differently.
Everyone’s hole has one other thing in common.
It can’t be filled with food.
Or Alcohol.
Or Drugs.
That is why the food, the alcohol or the Drugs never work.
That is why the first questions I had to ask myself when I wanted to lose weight…
Was:
Why was I using Food inappropriately?
It was to fill a hole.
It was a love sized hole.
I didn’t know how to ask for or receive love.
The second reason:
It was to build up enough fat to protect me from unwanted attention from Men.
Once I figured those out, I knew that food was a drug for me.
Knowing the seriousness of the problem, facing it…helps you to confront it and overcome it.
Don’t make light of it…because it could kill you.
You can have a ‘Food Plan’.
You can exercise.
You can be gung ho.
But if your issues,
and that hole isn’t fixed.
I dare to say.
You will put the weight back on, plus some.
I did it.
I had to become emotionally whole to win this fight.
You can do it too.
Ask the questions.
Get the answers..
Accept the answers.
Fix the problem.
How do you fix the problem.
Well that depends on the problem.
I am an fan of
Dig it up.
face it
Fix it.
Problems with your parents?
Abusive childhood?
You have to do what you have to , to set it right.
It means face the abuser and forgive the abuser.
You can face the abuser on the phone, through a letter, or in person.
you have to think about your safety.
You get it off your chest. Or it will fester.
They don’t have to accept your version.
They don’t even have to say they are sorry.
Mine didn’t.
Then you forgive.
Not for them, for you.
So it no longer has a hold on you.
And then you set out learning how to trust.
Learning how to ask for what you need and not being afraid to try.
This is just one issue.
Each issue has its own steps.
But each HAS to be dealt with.
Or you won’t get better.
That is the hard part.
But you can do it.
Have a good day.
Big Hugs and best wishes to you.
Chris
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Dig it up.
face it
Fix it.
This is so right on Chris!
Thanks TAra, I was thinking I dropped this post and it hit like a turd at a tea party lol.
I thought..well God, if only one person gets something out of it, it was worth it…and here you are…
so thank you.
Okay, is it dorky to comment on my own blog? I LOVE this post and the idea behind it. If you lose the weight but don’t address the underlying issues, YOU WILL GAIN THE WEIGHT BACK. It’s like putting band-aid on something that needs stitches…sooner or later, you’re gonna need those stitches, and you might have to go through a whole lot more pain in the meantime. Thanks for sharing your process, Chris!
*um, not any dorkier than commenting twice on your own guest post. lol.
magic. i’m watching you guys and it’s magic.
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